Thursday, January 22, 2015

First Things First



Probably the hardest part of this journey was taking the first step.  Last week at church our pastor said this "The first step to a new life is the last step in the old one."  Wow - I've never thought of it that way.  For me the first step was being honest with myself and it was tough.  Sometimes the truth hurts!

I am a master excuse maker and professional procrastinator.  And I can do them both well - together.  More than once I've told myself this "Oh it can wait - I work better under pressure any way."  Pretty masterful huh!

Well when it came to my weight I was an expert excuse maker.
*I just can't focus on that right now - there are more important things I need to focus on
*It's only a small brownie
*This is just the way God made me (Sorry Lord - please forgive me for using YOU as an excuse)
*I can't exercise - I'm too big
*I'm just too tired to (exercise, cook a healthy meal, go to the grocery store, or anything else I didn't really want to do)
*It's a special day
*Food is how we fellowship and spend time with friends
*It is selfish to focus time and money on me instead of my family

Oh I could go on and on and on and on and on!  I knew this had to stop if I was going to move forward.  I had to start being honest with myself first.  I had to stop making excuses and either do it or  don't.  But I had to make that decision with honesty.

I could read this everyday to remind myself of the truth!


I made myself 293.2 pounds.  I made myself lazy and out of shape.  I was responsible for the me that I had become so uncomfortable with.  And I was the only person that could change it.

First things first, have a heart to heart conversation with yourself.  What do you want to change in your life?  How did you get there?  How can you change?

Sunday, January 18, 2015

You Can't Change the Past


I really love this!  So simple and true.  Something that my head knows but my heart doesn't always want to believe.  But this past year has really helped me live the truth of this.  Since I started this journey I have said "one step at a time, one day at a time." Each step is changing the now, and changing the future.  I cannot go back and change what has already happened.  But my choices today can change the effects of my past decisions.  I can lose the weight I gained, make myself healthier form the inside out, and change the mental dialogue that the decisions of the past led to.  But I can't change what actually happened.  Honestly, I don't know if I would - even if I could.  All of my past has made me who I am today.  Without it, I don't know that I would have been strong enough or focused enough for the journey I am on today.

Don't focus on what you can't change.  If you are struggling with decisions or actions of the past, give them to God.  Let Him forgive you and fill you with peace.  Then seek Him in taking the next step forward.  The next step can change your now!

Sunday, January 11, 2015

And the Winner Is . . .


Shelia Slusher!!!

Congratulations Sheila and Thank You to everyone who stopped by and entered.

This would not have been possible without the amazing ladies who donated items too!  I'd love it if you took a few minutes to visit their sites and remember them if you are ever in the market for any of these items!

An Erin Condren Wellness Journal.  If you don't win,sign-up here for a $10 off coupon code.

A super-cute Personalized cup that is just PERFECT for drinking water!  A cute cup makes it easier right?!?  Thanks Kristen for donating this!
A Beautiful Love Is bracelet from Origami Owl donated by my friend Brenda.  This is so perfect for a journey like this because we have to remember that Love is Patient and Love is Kind - even with ourselves!
This WONDERFUL book written by friend Debbie Clement.  Perfect addition to your library!  Read it and read it often!
LOVE this key FOB.  Sometimes we just need to remind ourselves of  who we are.
It says "UR Bold, UR True, UR Strong, URU"
Donated by Kristen Poindexter - 31 Consultant
This mascara is AMAZING!  Thanks Debbie for donating this!
2 bottles of Young Living Essential oils(Lavender and Peppermint)
AND and Introduction to Essential Oils Class for you and your friends
(in person if you are local or on online class if not)
Made to Crave: Satisfying Your Deepest Desire with God, Not Food
Print or Kindle edition book
Two meetings with me to discuss weight-loss, fitness, healthy living or whatever else is on your heart.
In person, via phone or Skype



Saturday, January 10, 2015

Living in the Comfort Zone

This morning I was reading in a fabulous book called Unglued, by Lysa TerKeurst.


While reading I came across something that I just knew I had to share with you.  Is this a book about weight loss or fitness, nope.  But the truth I ran across today can be applied to that or really anything you would like to change in your life.

It started with Lysa telling a story of a recent trip she made to Los Angeles, California to volunteer at The Dream Center, and here's what she said:

"On our first day, we served food at a soup kitchen on Skid Row - one of the outreach ministries of the Dream Center.  I saw so many people in such desperate situations I had a hard time processing it all.  There were prostitutes, pimps, people high on who knows what, heaps of trash being used for beds, and makeshift tents on the sidewalk.  . . .  Drugs.  Propositions.  Homelessness.  Filth.  Darkness.  This is where we were.  And this is what I couldn't understand:  Why do they stay? . . . But very few ever leave Skid Row."

Here it is . . . here's the truth for you and I:

"Comfort zones are like that.  Remember, comfort zones don't have to be comfortable - they're just familiar.  It's where you feel like you belong.  And where you come to believe you belong is where you will stay."

Whoa!  I had to go back and re-read that a couple times.  And with each reading the truth just sank deeper and deeper.  For many years, I believed that I belonged in an overweight body, fatigued, tired, unhappy, but trying to put on a happy face.  I believed I would always be that way because I had tried MANY times to get out (starting as a child) and nothing seemed to work.  So I figured this was it - my overweight, not happy with myself comfort zone.

But I am here to shout it as loud as I can - You Don't Have to Stay in Your Comfort Zone!!!!



It's not easy to take those first steps out.  In fact, I would say those first steps are the hardest - but not impossible.  There is hope of a life outside the comfort zone and all you have to do is take the first step.  Sometimes the first step is simply making up your mind that you are going to take the second step!

In the book Lysa tells of a lady she met on  Skid Row, Janice.  "Janice listened to our promises that the people at the Dream Center could help her detox, give her a safe place to stay, and get her back on her feet.  . . .  We helped Janice into the rescue van, drove away from Skid Row, checked her into the rehab floor at the Dream Center, and left feeling relieved and full of hope for her."  The next day Lysa was volunteering in a different part of Los Angeles when she was approached by a woman asking for money.  This woman was Janice, begging for money so that she could get the bus fare to take her back to Skid Row.  In less than 24 hours Janice chose to walk away from hope and from help.  When Lysa asked her why she had left the Dream Center and whether they could help her get back, Janice responded with such honesty "I have to go back to the streets 'cause I know where to put my blankets there.  I don't know where to put my blankets anywhere else."

Struggling with my weight my entire life,  I have been down Janice's road.  I have tried to leave my comfort zone and returned.  Leave and Return.  Quite frankly in the last few years, I tried to leave less and less because I just didn't think it was possible.  Before I could take those first steps in January of 2014, I had to be honest with myself.  It took me getting to the point of knowing that if I didn't do it now, I probably never would.  I didn't rush into those first steps either.  I researched, thought, and researched some more.  It took me a few months to get truly ready to leave my comfort zone.  But once I was ready to take that first step, I stepped out with hope for a new future.  I stepped out with hope that I could re-write the path my life was currently walking down.  Doubt occasionally crept in, but I chose to keep stepping away from my comfort zone and toward a new life.  Running back to my comfort zone would have been much easier but I am so glad I chose not to.

Here's something to think about.  Are you living in your comfort zone?


If you are ready to step out, to lose sight of the comforts of the familiar, you can do it.  Don't try to jump all the way to the end, just take it one step at a time.  If you need someone to talk to, encourage you, or just walk along side you I am here.

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Let's Celebrate! 1 Year Anniversary!




I can't believe that it has been a year since I stepped on the scale in the nurses' office at my school. You see, I knew things were bad but I hadn't weighed in months so I didn't really know how bad they were.  Well, when I saw the numbers 293.2 on the scale I was at a loss for words.  But I wasn't at a loss for emotions.  My insides were like a raging storm.  Enough was enough!  I FINALLY had enough of myself.  I knew that if I didn't do something I would watch the scale change to 300 and then keep going.   So I decided to do something.  If you haven't read my story yet, you can find it HERE.  If you want to know how I did it, you will have to read that post too.

Well today is not about focusing on the past, today is about celebrating the journey and celebrating success!  But even more importantly it is about thanking you - my cheerleaders and encouragers.  

Where was I a year ago?


Exhausted, Unmotivated, Didn't Like Who I Was, 
Uncomfortable in My Own Skin, Trying to Hide

Where am I now?


Healthy, Happy, Confident, Energetic, Loving Life


Seeing these pictures is very emotional for me for many reasons.  I remember the pain before the journey started.  I see the results of hard work.  I know there are many others in the same place I was just a year ago and I want them to know this:  "It is not hopeless."

Here's some of my before and now pics (that I haven't shared publicly before).

I put on the same tank that I originally took pictures in and it just hung on me!  So loose and baggy.  So I opted for a second picture in a different tank.  
I love that I am starting to see some muscles showing up!  A personal goal is to be comfortable wearing a sleeveless/tank shirt or sundress by summer! 
I would highly recommend this journey to anyone!  Has it always been easy, No!  Has it been worth it?  Absolutely!  And as cliché as it sounds, if I can do it - you CAN do it too!  

What better way to celebrate than with some gifts!  Not gifts for me - but gifts for YOU!  To say thank you for following my journey, thank you for your support and thank you for your encouragement.  God has blessed me with some of the best cheerleaders around!  You ALL make this journey so much easier.  You have no idea what a blessing you have been to me on this journey.  

On a side note - if you are on your journey of your own, or you would like to start one, and you need someone to be your cheerleader I want that job!  One of the best parts of my year has been the ability to walk this journey with others.  It's a tough road to walk alone.  Please don't!  Please let me walk with you!  E-mail me or find me on Facebook.  Leave a comment below and I will contact you.  Take a moment to let me know you need a cheerleader, accountability buddy, encourager or just a fitness friend.  I am here and would love to be that person for you.

OK - back to the gifts!  I have some amazing friends (that I've met in this great blogging world)  that wanted to be part of this celebration by giving to YOU!  They have all generously donated some amazing things to help you feel better and look better!  All you need do is enter the giveaway below for your chance to win these great prizes!

An Erin Condren Wellness Journal.  If you don't win,sign-up here for a $10 off coupon code.

A super-cute Personalized cup that is just PERFECT for drinking water!  A cute cup makes it easier right?!?  Thanks Kristen for donating this!
A Beautiful Love Is bracelet from Origami Owl donated by my friend Brenda.  This is so perfect for a journey like this because we have to remember that Love is Patient and Love is Kind - even with ourselves!
This WONDERFUL book written by friend Debbie Clement.  Perfect addition to your library!  Read it and read it often!
LOVE this key FOB.  Sometimes we just need to remind ourselves of  who we are.
It says "UR Bold, UR True, UR Strong, URU"
Donated by Kristen Poindexter - 31 Consultant
This mascara is AMAZING!  Thanks Debbie for donating this!
2 bottles of Young Living Essential oils(Lavender and Peppermint)
AND and Introduction to Essential Oils Class for you and your friends
(in person if you are local or on online class if not)
Print or Kindle edition book
Two meetings with me to discuss weight-loss, fitness, healthy living or whatever else is on your heart.
In person, via phone or Skype

That's some pretty amazing things to help your body, mind and soul!  All are important on a journey like this.  A big THANK YOU to Debbie, Kristen and Brenda for donating some fabulous items!  Please make sure you visit their pages and think of them if you are ever in the market for a personalized cup, 31 products, Origami Owl or Younique!

Thank you again for all your support and encouragement this last year.  I look forward to an even healthier year 2!

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Sunday, January 4, 2015

You're Invited . . .


to join me for a 1 Year Celebration!

When:  January 6, 2015
Where:  Right Here on the I Can and So Can You Blog

Check back Tuesday to see what has happened in the last year!

Friday, January 2, 2015

Shopping Day!

So I went shopping today with my Mom (love shopping with Mom) and spent some Christmas money.  I really didn't know what to expect because sizes seem to be changing all the time.  So here was my strategy at Old Navy.  I was wearing a pair of Size 16 jeans so I took in a size 16, but I also grabbed a size 14 just in case.  Got in the dressing room and said to myself "try on the smaller size first because it probably won't fit."  But guess what - it fit!!!!  Not just once but multiple size 14's in different brands and stores!  

Now let me just say that I don't think I've worn that size since high school - yes high school. That would be almost 25 years ago! Crazy right!?!  Less than 1 year ago I was wearing a TIGHT size 24. Oh the difference a year can make. 

Where do you want to be in 2016? It's not too early to start heading that direction! One day at a time, one step at a time, one choice at a time.